support for male survivors of Domestic violence

A safe space for men who have experienced abuse to get help

Las Cruces, NM

You deserve a healthy relationship.

We’re here for you. If you’re in a toxic or codependent relationship, or if you are stuck in abusive patterns with your partner, it can be hard to get out. It can be even harder for men to get support for domestic violence. Our groups support you as you take the steps you are ready to take towards a healthier self that can have healthier relationships.

1 in 7 men will experience abuse in a relationship

One of the most common myths about domestic violence is that men cannot be the victim. Regardless of the gender of the victim or abuser, domestic violence is the same.

  • Patterns of behaviors used by one partner to maintain power and control over another partner in an intimate relationship.

    It can take the form of physical violence, emotional, verbal, or sexual abuse.

  • Withholding approval or affection to punish you

    Criticizing, ridiculing, or yelling

    Taking away your car keys or money

    Threatening they will leave you or force you to leave

    Threatening to hurt you

    Depriving you from your children when angry at you

    Threatening to take the children and disappear if you leave

    Hurting your pets

    Harassing you about affairs they think you are having

    Manipulating you with lies and broken agreements

    Destroying furniture and breaking things in the house

    Waving a weapon in a threatening way

    Aggressive child transfers

    Hitting, kicking, shoving, or throwing things when upset

  • We acknowledge that men are far more often the perpetrators of domestic violence, are in a much less vulnerable position than women, and that there is not enough support for women survivors. We also believe that domestic violence happens within a cycle: Hurt people hurt people, and that this begins often in our childhood. Our focus is on helping men heal, so they can do their part to break the generational cycles, and show up as better partners, fathers, and men with a healthier masculine identity. If you are a woman in a situation of domestic violence in Las Cruces, we recommend contacting La Casa, or the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

But my partner never hit me…

Over 38 million men will suffer psychological aggression from an intimate partner at some point in their life (CDC). This is also domestic violence, and can cause serious depression and posttraumatic stress disorder (PTSD). We are here to support men in our community to break free from an abusive relationship, and recover from the lasting effects of trauma.

you can learn how to manage stress, anxiety and PTSD

You deserve healing. And you don’t have to remain a victim forever. But the Post Traumatic effects of domestic abuse can last a lifetime. Our groups offer activities like meditation, breathwork and acupuncture, to help you learn how to manage stress, anxiety, depression and PTSD. No matter what you are going through or have been through, your body, your brain, your spirit and your emotions can heal. In our group, we approach all healing with trauma-sensitivity.